The Key to Stopping Self-Comparison: And Return to a More Joyful Life

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Stopping Self-Comparison

And Live A More Joyful Life Being Yourself

"Comparison is the death of joy."  -Mark Twain

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Please - 

Understand. You are perfect. As you are. And as you will become. 

And you will become.


I was reading Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke and I think his words may resonate with you, even if you may not be a writer:


"You ask whether your verses are any good. You ask me. You have asked others before this. You send them to magazines. You compare them with other poems, and you are upset when certain editors reject your work. Now (since you have said you want my advice) I beg you to stop doing that sort of thing. You are looking outside, and that is what you should most avoid right now. No one can advise or help you - no one. There is only one thing you should do. Go into yourself."


The sense of inadequacy. Self comparison. Frustration with failure or the outcome of nothing. 

Please... stop. It is the most negative thing you can do to your creative spirit. Your spirit. 

You are incomparable. Your work is incomparable. 

And when you believe that your art form is not enough, or you are not enough, then ask yourself why you create. And create. Keep creating, even when nothing comes of it... Because whether you know it or not, something is coming from it. 


And progress is one of those things that many people look outwards for. They look for visible improvements and when they don't see it, they get discouraged. What they are truly missing is the progress that occurs inwards. 

The more you create, the more you get closer to every experience, thought, feeling, lesson, enlightenment, and jumps of inspiration. And the moment you focus on everything that you did not do, all of this fades away.

And you can't let it. You are getting closer to understanding yourself and your creative process and the love of being yourself. Before any progress can occur outwards into your work, you must let the inward progress through and let it flow as plain and effortlessly - as many of us have come to so easily compare ourselves to others.

So - go into yourself.

Because when you raise your spirit up - Your confidence, your self-love, self-respect, and all good things you need to hold true and dear towards yourself - When you raise it all up, comparison of any sort becomes meaningless. 

You are yourself. And others are themselves. Each one of us is different.

I guess - the moment we find ourselves truly beautiful - we'll be able to see the reflection of that in our respective art forms. And we will find reflections of that in the art forms of others'. 

So keep doing what you are doing. 

And remind yourself to stop and go into yourself and search for the good in yourself and one more thing you love about yourself. 

It will come. And you will become.